Showing posts with label Romance. Show all posts
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Thursday, 12 May 2011

The Art of Kissing – Tips On How To Kiss A Girl


Most guys have not taken enough time to learn the art work of kissing a woman. To establish the building blocks regarding how to kiss a girl and also truly blow her mind with the experience, initially employ touch to slowly evaluate whether the girl is ready to kiss you. If you’re able to move smoothly and tenderly in stroking her hair, neck, and ears, then she is most likely ready to kiss you. Enjoy the feelings that you are genuinely bringing her so that you could take a long time to just enjoy each other making sure that when the kiss occurs, the build up and sizzling electricity is going to be that much more amazing.

Once you have created the basis of physical comfort and ease through touch, create the special moment of the kiss simply by touching her cheeks softly as well as guiding her face toward you. Lead her strongly yet gently. If she is ready to kiss you, as you slowly move toward her, she will close her eyes, smile, or move her face closer. Your lips have met, and you are now kissing her! Nearly every woman has a fantasy and ideal of how she would like to be kissed. So here comes the secret regarding how to kiss a girl and discover what that ideal kiss is without actually asking her. One of the simplest ways to discover is to simply pay attention. People commonly project outward what we most desire, particularly in the physical area, therefore we will give love the way in which we would like to receive love and she will kiss you the way she would like to be kissed.

The key is to model her kiss. What this means is to kiss her exactly how she is kissing you since her lips will be telling you her ideal kiss. How come modeling her kiss so effective? Have you ever met a woman who considers herself a poor kisser? I think not. When you kiss her the way she kisses you are certain to be great in her eyes. Next, those who are like each other “like” each other, so when you kiss her just the way that she kisses you it is just like you are already lovers for a long time. By kissing her in a way that is surprisingly familiar to her, she will feel secure, as well as on a unconscious level become bonded to you, and with that you can turn out to be her ideal lover through your kiss.

Majority of the women prefer to take kissing slowly, and unless she is thrusting her tongue into your mouth, don’t take the initiative until you have at least been modeling her kiss for a minute. Carry on to model her kiss for as long as possible. Consider it is a mirroring exercise and you are mirroring precisely what she’s doing. Mirror also the time that she takes in touching the lips together and separating with your lips. Through the modeling process, you may be gently stroking her hair, holding her head tenderly, or even gently caressing her face to add the extremely delicious moment. After you have modeled her kiss for a while, then you can venture to lead her with you kiss to deepen the passion and exploration. If you really like introducing your tongue into the kiss, then begin slowly and gradually. You don’t want to just thrust your tongue into her mouth.

Let her to lead slightly, particularly with something as intrusive as the tongue, and just place it at the entrance of her mouth near her lips. Allow her to take the lead first in beginning to dance with you. You need to listen and feel as well as merge into this dance between the two of you. Maintain your tongue soft and after a bit of exploration, you may trace her upper or lower lip gently with your tongue. This can be a fantastic way to test to see whether she would like to join you in the tongue dance. If her tongue comes out to meets yours, then start to dance with the tip of her tongue before getting with her deeper.

There are many ways for you to increase the deliciousness of the kiss. A proven way is to say things in your head or out loud like, “I absolutely enjoy kissing you”, or “You are such an amazing woman”, or “You are so yummy, I just want to devour you”, etc. If you say these things in your mind or to her it’s going to amplify the strength of the kiss a lot more. This is definitely tremendous. This is exactly what will truly blow her mind with satisfaction and have her dissolve into you because you are adoring her in the way she has fantasized about simply by mirroring exactly how she wants to be kissed.

To further boost the deliciousness of the kiss, you could more fully integrate all the finesse of touch. Caress her cheeks tenderly when you take a temporarily stop in kissing her before going in to kiss her again. Caress the back of her head with both of your hands as you kiss her or move both hands down her back and press her chest against yours or move her lower back into your hips according to what effect you prefer to co-create together with her. Synchronize the way you kiss her with the way you genuinely touch her face, hair, neck, and back to generate incredibly delightful feelings for her. When enough modeling, alter the way you kiss her to create a sizzling mixture of pleasure with her.

Kissing could be so intimate, so delicious, and so wonderful. It is really an amazing way to continue to generate the profound intimacy that you have with your woman. Give yourself the time, the patience, and the spaciousness to really enjoy the work of art which is your kiss. The best way to learn how to kiss a girl is to take hours to simply make out with each other. Make-believe that you are back in high school and that this is probably the most exciting findings you have made in your life.

Enjoy every moment of the kiss with her and let this naturally lead you to deeper sensual and sexual exploration which will blow her thoughts. Learning the fine art on how to kiss a girl is simply the tip of the iceberg on delivering your woman total amazing pleasures which she does not have any idea is achievable.

How to Kiss

Step 1 Pre Kiss
The lead up to the kiss can actually be the most difficult part of kissing. Figuring out whether your partner is ready to kiss you or not can be a challenge of its own.

If you see one or a combination of these indicators, there is a good chance that your partner is thinking about kissing you.

* eyes become soft and heavy
* eye contact is made and sustained
* head turns slightly
* lips are licked or bitten
* your partner makes physical contact with you beyond what seems appropriate for normal conversation (e.g. he or she brushes your hand, touches you on the shoulder or leg, or fidgets with an accessory)
* easy conversation comes to a stop, but eye contact is not broken
* your partner smiles in conjunction with any of the above behaviors

To give your partner the cue that you wish to kiss him or her, you can try one or a combination of these things.

* soften your gaze by relaxing the muscles around your eyes, somewhat like smiling but without engaging your mouth
* smile often, though
* make eye contact and allow it to linger for a few moments longer than you normally would
* find ways to subtly (but respectfully) touch your partner

If you think you are picking up some of these signs, but are still unsure if the person wants to be kissed then there is nothing wrong with just simply asking your partner if a kiss would be all right. Granted it breaks the mood a bit, and sensing the magic is always nicer than asking if it's there, but better to be sure your partner is on board for the kiss otherwise you might be heading for an embarrassing situation.

If you've assessed the situation, and it seems probable that a kiss is imminent, the next things to think about are timing and approach. The key to nailing the pre kiss is matching your partner's speed and intensity. The kiss is the first opportunity to physically connect with your partner, and so you want to meet him or her halfway.

Here are some steps you could follow as you go in for the kiss. Keep in mind that the kiss you share with someone is as unique as your relationship with that person, so follow your instincts and use the following as a rough guideline.

1. Establish a physical connection by placing your hands on your partner's body. Placement depends on the dynamic between you, you can softly touch the face, the back of the neck or the shoulders. Be gentle with your touch if this is the first contact you are making. Stay away from "high risk" zones on your partners body, as you just want to indicate that you are interested in kissing them, not give them a full body search.

2. Establish and maintain eye contact from this point on. The eyes are often a clear indicator if someone wants to be kissed, or is thinking about kissing you. Try to look at your partner with a deep, yet soft gaze. Use your eyes to send them a message that shows how you feel for your partner, e.g., "I care for you, I am on fire when I look at you, I want to kiss you."

3. As you lean in, you may want to tilt your body and head to accommodate your partner's positioning. One partner will have to make room for the other, or both partners can just slightly tilt heads in opposite directions. Basically you are just trying to avoid a nose collision as you get closer, so just pick a side to turn to and don't give it too much thought.

4. Gauge how quickly your partner is leaning in and try to meet at the halfway point between you, so neither person is overextended. Over/under extension can make one person feel like they are not getting met and are either too aggressive, or not engaged enough.

If you have come this far with your partner chances are you are going to kiss, or you have misread the entire situation and they are just leaning in to look at something stuck in your teeth.
If the first is true, then read on because it's time to pucker up and get on with THE KISS.

Step 2 Practice the Kiss
Once you're leaning in, things start to happen quickly. If you are nervous about the actual kiss, why not practice beforehand to hone your technique? An arm or mirror could serve as useful tools to self monitor the feel and look of your kissing style.

Rest assured, THE KISS is coming, but here it is broken down first, step by step so that you know whats going on when you see it at full speed with a partner in the next step.

Here is a head on view of a kiss. I am just practicing here, so it might look a little funny, but once your partner is sitting across from you and your lips meet theirs, it's H, O, T hot.

1. You are in the pre kiss state described in step 1 - your head is tilted, there is lip activity, your eyes are in a soft deep gaze and maybe there is some light physical contact.

You could open or close your eyes, though if you're nervous, closed could help avoid the deer in headlights look of fear. I like to start with mine open and close them just before lip contact.

2. Either you or your partner has shown that they would like to kiss. Start putting the pieces from step 1 together. Lean in and meet your partner halfway. Begin to pucker the lips by bringing them together, pushing them out, and applying just a faint hint of suction on your closed mouth to bring the cheeks slightly in.

Now is a good time to lick your lips if they aren't already moist.

Keep leaning in, remembering to tilt your head until you make contact with your partner's lips.

Remember not to forget about hand placement! A gentle touch to the back of the neck, the shoulders or your partners head is all you need. This can also help in guiding someone into the kiss if they are lost or are having trouble meeting you.

3. Your lips come to a full pucker position. They are soft, but not floppy. They can be fully formed and firm, but certainly not hard. This is an ambiguous state for any solid to be in - but these are your lips were talking about here - they can handle it!

Make contact with your partners lips.

If this is your first kiss, you don't want to linger too long, but you also don't want to just peck them and retreat.

Count "one-one thousand, two-one thousand" in your head before relaxing the pucker in your lips and beginning to pull your head away. You can hold the kiss like this for longer, but after 5 seconds or so should start think about ending this kiss. If you would like to keep kissing after that you can always lean in again and follow up the first kiss with a second, third or fourth kiss.

Remember to breathe through the kiss. It's all right to hold your breath for a short kiss, but for longer ones you are going to have to breathe while you are kissing. Since your mouth is occupied, you are going to have to use your nose. Just breathe normally and continue on with the kiss.

To end the kiss begin to lighten the pressure your lips are applying to your partners' and relax your puckered lips. As your lips relax they will separate and a small amount of air will be sucked into your mouth. This will create the kissing noise, or "smack" that is identified with a kiss.

At this point contact with your partner's lips has ended and its time to start thinking about giving them a little space and time to reflect about what just happened.

4. Move your head back slowly and begin to relax the muscles around your mouth. You can keep your eyes closed for a bit as you revel in the kiss and slowly return to your normal un-extended position.

5. You are now in the post kiss phase and if it was a good kiss, words won't do the feeling justice. If you and your partner liked what just happened you can follow up with more, or just enjoy what the two of you shared. If it was a bad kiss, you can try to make changes and give the kiss another go. If things can't be salvaged at that particular moment, don't force it - take a break and talk about it with your partner and try again after a few minutes or another day.